Lindsay Bong: On Breaking Free Of The Need For The Approval Of Others

Do you feel as though you need to please everyone? Do you ever do things for other people because you want them to like and accept you? Do you put other people’s needs before your own and fear that if you start to put your own needs first and practice self-love that you’ll become selfish? Don’t worry, you are not alone. In this episode, you’ll hear the personal story of our co-founder, Lindsay, and how she broke free of the need to constantly serve others and win their approval.

Lindsay talks about the way in which she always felt that she had to work out what others needed from her and make sure she was meeting those needs so that they would like and accept her. She shares how this can make you forget who you are and deny your own needs and wants, essentially becoming invisible, in order to please others.  

We go into Lindsay’s upbringing, the role that her Christian faith has played alongside her journey of self-love, what happens when your self-worth is wrapped up in being of service to others, and how to show up in your relationships without expectations.  

We also talk about the way in which being a parent and wanting to instill a sense of self-love in her children became Lindsay’s gateway into realizing the importance of building her own self-love and self-compassion.

Lindsay shares how she builds her self-love or “fills her love cup”, as she puts it, and talks about her “joy diet”, which you’ll want to tune in for.